Saturday, April 11, 2020

The Rooster and the Boy – An Easter Story



In remembrance of my Savior, Jesus Christ.  My infinite yoke.




Mr. Rooster and Mrs. Hen were the most joyful couple in the barnyard, but you wouldn’t know it to look at them.  Mr. Rooster sat on his favorite perch high on the barn every day.  He would watch the area around him, to see what he could see.  Many times, he saw the farmer milk the cow, plant his seeds, or pull his weeds.  Sometimes he would see the farmer collect honey from his bees. 

Every day, Mrs. Hen would lay her eggs, and patiently wait.  The farmer always came and gathered her eggs.  This made Mrs. Hen a little bit sad, but each night Mr. Rooster would fly down from his perch, sit by Mrs. Hen and tell her about all the good her eggs had done.  “The farmer fed his family today, then they went out planted that lovely field with wheat.  That will give many people food for a whole season,” he would say.  This brought Mrs. Hen peace. 

Another time, he told her, “Farmer sold your egg to the town doctor, and then he went to the hospital and saved the life of a sick man.” It made Mrs. Hen happy to learn of the good her egg had brought.

Then, every morning, at just the right time Mr. Rooster would fly back to his perch at the top of the barn and cocka-doodle-doo.  That is how the sun knew it was time to rise.  When the sun rose, the grass knew it was time to grow, the cow knew it was time to eat the grass, and the morning chill would melt away.

One day as Mr. Rooster sat on his favorite perch, high on the barn, he noticed a young boy was living near the bridge.  The boy was lost and scared.  Mr. Rooster flew down to Bunny and said, “Bunny, you can come and go from the garden as you please.  You are really good at squeezing through fences, and delicately bouncing over rocks.  Will you please take one of Mrs. Hen’s eggs and hide it where the boy can find it?”

Well, Bunny was white like the egg, but he really loved color and was something of an artist so each day as he delivered the egg to the boy, he would decorate it.  Somedays he would roll it in the green grass.  Other times he would stamp it with berries.  There were some eggs that he sprinkled with sparkly pollen.  Other eggs, he would wrap in soft, pink, flower petals. 

As the boy was searching for food, he would always find a beautiful egg hidden in the meadow.  Mrs. Hen would cluck with delight when she learned about the bright colors her eggs had become, and sleep so peacefully, when she heard that the little boy had found the egg each day.

One day, Mr. Rooster said to Bunny, “I don’t want you to hide the boy’s egg in the meadow today, instead I want you to roll it high up onto the mountain and hide it between the rocks.”  He never called to Bunny to deliver an egg to the boy again.

Instead, each day Mr. Hen would call to the sun and the sun would rise.  It would shine on the rocks in the mountain.  The rocks would absorb the heat and their shade would protect the egg from getting too hot in the day.  Then at night the rocks would release their heat and keep the egg from getting too cold.  The boy, however, did not find the egg in the mountain.  Mrs. Hen was worried.  The little boy was hungry.  Bunny was bored.  Nobody could see the egg safe in the mountain, but Mr. Rooster knew it was there. 

After some time, the boy decided he better climb the mountain to see if he could find more food.  As he climbed, he heard a tapping, and then saw an eggshell.  He looked behind a rock to discover a baby chick! 

The boy loved the baby chick and put him in his pocket.  With time, the boy had lots of eggs and a few more chicks.  He would use them to feed his family.  Sometimes, he would sell them to the doctor down the street.  But every morning, when he heard the old rooster crow.  He knew it was time to get up and welcome the day.

As a man, he remembered that time he had been lost.  He recalled a white bunny who would greet him each morning.  Amazingly, the bunny would come to him and softly snuggle him, comforting him through the morning chill.  Then, each day, the bunny would run off into the meadow.  The boy learned to follow him, and every day he would find a beautiful egg hidden in the meadow.  It was the bunny who, one Friday, had not taken him to the meadow, but instead darted up the mountainside.  It took the boy three days to choose to follow, but when he did, he was able to look over the valley and see his way home.  That was also the day he found the chick and saved his life.     

Now, once a year, on a beautiful spring Sunday.  The boy collects his bounty of eggs and decorates them.  He calls the nearby children to find the eggs skillfully hidden by “Bunny”.  He wants them to experience a little of the magic he did. 


On this day, it is Mrs. Hen, who joyfully watches as the children excitedly discover her beautifully arrayed eggs.  Then that night, when Mr. Rooster flies down from his perch, she tells him about how glorious her children had been and the glee they had brought.  She marvels at how much good her children have done.  And, although you might not be able to tell by first glance, Mr. Rooster rejoices too.      


Monday, November 3, 2014

A Halloween Fail

My daughter has wanted to be a pirate ship... for months.  We made her one out of cardboard a month ago.  It was crude but we had time to work on it, until we didn't.  I figured my son could be a pirate.  We put whiskers and an eye patch on him, until he wouldn't wear it... then we put overalls, a cowboy hat, and cowboy boots.  The whiskers still looked cute. 

As we headed to the school for a Halloween Hoopla, upon exiting the house my daughter decided the ship should be left behind.  Okay she could wear the eye patch, until she didn't.  As we walked through the hall, "trick or treating" my son had a break down because he wanted to go into the boys restroom.  I let them go into the girls, it was filthy.  I was ready to go home, but not before spending $13 on lame things at the book fair.  Son had another breakdown because I wanted him to play with the overpriced car I had just bought instead of somebody else's plastic bus.  Put son on shoulders, daughter on bike, eventually making it home... boots, eye patch, hat, car all carried in a bag.  Too worn out to fight the battle with any actual trick or treating.  Sat on swing and passed out candy.  Eventually daughter decided to put on ship, leaving son home we visited about 4 houses and back home.  Overtired son finally fell asleep.  Daughter followed shortly after.

The worst part is this was the only picture that got taken:



I had already been feeling guilty about not doing much for Halloween, wishing I had more spare cycles to do "special things."  This Halloween goes into my book as a major FAIL!  The best part is my daughter still declared it one of the "Best Days Ever." Thank goodness her expectations were low... and don't be surprised if at some point I dress those kids back up to get better pictures.

Sunday, January 5, 2014

A Lesson on Love

Fifteen months ago, I attended the temple bringing with me all my worries and concerns as my family entered a new stage of our life.  I came away with a promise and a reminder that the Lord keeps his promises.  I believed that promise would be fulfilled during 2013, and many of the things I did during the year were a manifestation of my faith in that promise.  I took chances I wouldn't normally have taken and the promise inspired hope where I would have struggled to have some.  As the year came to an end, and the promise was still yet to be fulfilled, my spirits dampened. 

Could my testimony survive a belief that the Lord did not keep his promise when it became apparent that the promise as I had understood it had not been received?  I went to my journal as I wrestled with this disappointment.  As I released the hurt and frustration through my pen, I was able to make a decision... I wasn't willing to let this experience rob me of my relationship with my Heavenly Father. 

I did not understand the Lord's will in this matter, but I wasn't willing to walk away from my most valued friendship because of it.  New resolve filled my soul and I became able to serve with more sincerity and earnest. 

I considered the first commandment, given by the Savior, to love God with all our might mind and soul.

Shortly, thereafter, I made a financial sacrifice to take my daughter on a carousel ride out our local mall.  She had been anticipating this opportunity for months, and I was happy to provide it for her.  We all rode and enjoyed the experience.  She was happy.  As we began leaving the shopping area we passed another, much smaller carousel ride.  As we passed that ride she indicated that she also wanted to ride that one, I declined and before we had exited the building she was in tears because she had not received her second desired blessing.  My heart sank, and I saw in her what my Heavenly Father might also see in me.  Did I only love God when He gave me the blessings I desired or could I also love God when I might feel forgotten and forsaken by Him?

Although, in the eternal scheme of things, I believe God does keep His promises.  I also believe, that many if not all of us will feel forgotten or forsaken by Him at one point or another.  We have evidence that even the Savior felt this emotion as he hung on a cross He cried out, "My God Why Hast thou Forsaken Me?"  May we, during our times of trial, find comfort in these words as we know that Christ has truly felt that hurt and in His infinite atonement carried that burden for us as well. 

Suddenly, Job's choice to not curse God has become understandable.  Job didn't love God because of all the blessings God had bestowed upon him... Job loved God because he chose to love God.  He was a friend and companion and the blessings, although I'm sure appreciated, were not the foundation of the relationship.  

A good friend once gave me some feedback about my tactlessness, "but its okay,"  she said, "because we know that about you and we love you anyway."  In my love for my friends, I like to follow the example of this friend and allow others their weaknesses.  I'm willing to overlook their follies and foibles, try to focus on their strengths and then choose to love them.  Our Father in Heaven has no foibles or follies, but it was a significant lesson to me, that we must still choose to love Him, not because of what He can, will or does bless us with, but because we value Him and His interactions in our life.  Love is a choice.  Love God. 

Monday, March 4, 2013

The Lord Makes Up the Difference

I'm not sure if this is a lesson I need to learn or a blessing I continually receive but I have had a few experiences in my life that gives me faith that the statement, "The Lord Makes Up the Difference" is indeed true. 

National History Day:  I was a good student, I generally tried to be in the right place, at the right time, doing the right thing.  I wasn't the most competitive student, I, instead, opted for a balanced approach making sure I did all my homework, and hoping that was enough for me to learn the material to pass the course.  It worked in that I never failed (in fact, I remember a physics teacher who used to make us say aloud our grades after we graded our papers, as I reported my grade was an 87% he stopped... "Quarter 1 - 87%; Quarter 2 - 87%; Quarter 3 - 87%... well, at least you're consistent").  My sophomore year a combined English and history class assigned us to participate in a National History Day competition.  We had a "open pass" to go where we needed to go on campus during that period and to be honest some days, I went to my hang out spot.  As the competition neared, I was sure I was doomed to my day of reckoning, so you can imagine my surprise when I took first place in my division.  "The Lord Made Up the Difference" for that competition, and the reckoning came as I had to continue to improve my presentation for two more competitions!

Sister A:  My hardest companion in my favorite area.  She struggled with depression and many mornings slept late, struggling to get out the door on time.  I used to try and organize morning splits so we had a definite place we had to be.  On the mornings I was unsuccessful at this it was often late afternoon before we could get out.  It was torture on me!  My missionary mind was convinced we had to work as hard as we could - every minute- if we were going to be worthy to bring souls to Christ.  ... and yet the work flourished in that area.  After my transfer from that area, she stayed and her new companion stopped me at a zone conference.  "Was this a problem for you?  I don't get it, I've been working so hard in all my other areas, here I'm in all day and the baptisms are rolling in?"  The Lord made up the difference.  Perhaps Sister A was actually giving more than I gave her credit for.

Now I find myself in a situation again, where the Lord has made promises and as I look at the current scenario, I'm not sure how He's going to keep them... but I believe He will.  He always has.  He has proven time and again that He can make up the difference.  I'm choosing to have faith in that promise.

The most perfect example the Lord making up the difference is that of the Savior.  We know we are not perfect in this life and we are not going to be, yet, as we continue to strive to better ourselves He makes up for our weaknesses.  My favorite definition of grace is "more than we deserve." 

In general, I believe in the principle of hard work.  Expressions like, "you reep what you sew" and "due diligence" provide order and meaning to me.  The majority of my experiences have taught me that work is an essential part in receiving the blessings the Lord has in store for us.  These experiences urge me to press on.  The few experiences where the Lord has stepped in and provided more than I qualified for, however, give me hope.  Although I cannot be perfect in all things, I can still hope for grace. 

Friday, February 8, 2013

An Unintended Result?

I love having children. They are my joy. Just like we're promised, they bring me laughter and gladness. I feel so often that these are magical days we're living. I love it when they squeal with laughter, as they cuddle, or master new skills... but, I realized something the other day as I did the unglamorous job of moping the kitchen floor;  to have joy we must do the work of joy.  It has been my experience, that joy actually requires a great deal of work.     

Recently, I've been following some debates about inequality of women within the Mormon church.  The arguments are interesting and valid on both sides.  I wanted to take just a moment to explore my current thoughts and feelings. 

On the one hand, I am deeply grateful to the women and men who have protested inequality and have made effective changes in areas like women's right to vote, to own property, to gain an education, and to cultivate skills.  Because of them, I am employable in the workplace.  These opportunities have been a huge blessing in my life.

On the other hand, I don't believe some of the privileges have come without a price.  I feel that many men have used the feminist rhetoric as an excuse to not step up and perform their responsibilities.    More and more woman are expected to work outside the home, these women are not relinquished of their home responsibilities, they must still manage the day care, plan the meals, supervise the housekeeping, etc. but they must do it in addition to their full time jobs.  Having worked outside the home for over five years, I know that simply holding a full time job is stressful.  I can only imagine how that is compounded when you add raising a family to your full time job.  Its a situation I don't desire to be in. 

So while I'm grateful for the ability I have to be independent, I'm also grateful that I don't have to be.  I feel blessed when my husband takes seriously his role to provide and protect the family he helped equally in creating.  Truthfully, I'm happiest when I feel I can depend on him.  Ultimately, I believe in gender roles.  I don't want responsibility over his roles instead I want a partner who will join with me in doing the hard work of joy.  I will happily fold the laundry, if he'll take out the trash.  I will wake up in the middle of the night to breastfeed the baby if he will wake up in the morning and go to work.  I'll gladly bathe the children and get them ready for church, when he is serving in church meetings.  I don't have a need to sit in on church courts, or pass the sacrament, or be a Sunday School president.  I do have a need to trust that those things are done honorably, dependably, and fairly.

So before I stand up in protest asking for more gender equality in the church, I would kneel down and ask for more men who are willing to be dependable in doing the work of joy.   So that fewer women have to get the kids ready for church while their husband watches the football game or plays a video game.  So that fewer women cry as they leave their child with a sitter, because their husband won't work a full day or won't better his skills for a higher paying job or even worse, he has left them for somebody else or never really claimed responsibility for their actions in the first place.
I would ask that more men do their home teaching so that the few who are diligent can share the load more evenly.  And I would ask that fewer women have to forfeit having a marriage and children, because finding a man who will be dependable in their responsibilities is such a difficult task.   

I know that men are not always to blame in these situations, but I guess that is exactly my point.  More than "equality" or man and woman having the same responsibilities, I would like more dependability from each gender in performing well their roles.  To quote David O. McKay, "What E're thou art, act well thy part."  I think performing our roles, dependably, will bring the greatest joy and endear us to one another so that it is easier to cross gender roles in support of each other.

"In these sacred responsibilities, fathers and mothers are obligated to help one another as equal partners."  I know I feel the most supported when 1) my husband has completed the things I depend on him to do and then 2) reaches out to serve me by helping in my role.  When he uses his free time to help me mop the floor or to prepare a meal, I feel loved and want to give back.  And although I know he appreciates all the gender traditional tasks I perform, like the laundry or the dishes, I think my token contributions to the financial well being of the family and my judicious use of the resources he works hard to provide are among the most appreciated of the services I give.

The work of joy requires that both traditionally masculine and feminine tasks be completed... a clean house brings more joy than a disorderly home; nutrition brings more joy than malnutrition; financial security is less stressful then insecurity.  How these tasks are divided may be subjective and maliable but having a reliable partner to share in the work is necessary for the work to be joyous.  If a demand for equality has the unintended result of relieving one gender of their responsibilities and the other absorbing a greater share of the responsibilities, then I don't feel equality has been reached at  all... and certainly joy in the work is much harder to find.

Thursday, January 3, 2013

What I Remember about American Girl

American Girl is huge in the world of my nieces.  I guess rightly so, but the intrigue to me pales from what I remember them as during my youth.  I remember a catalogue coming in the mail with pages full of girls with their dolls.  The doll respresented characters from history, there were books about their experiences, but the coolest part:  there were period appropriate outfits to match the dolls!  What an opportunity to pretend.  I think Mattel really missed something when they retired these.

http://curtdanhauser.com/AG_Collecting/Dresses.html

Here's a link to the images of the dresses.   

Sunday, December 16, 2012

Thoughts on Guns, Marriage and the Constitution

I reread the constitution tonight. Actually, I'm not sure that I had ever just read the constitution but I had some thoughts running through my head and the constitution seemed like the best place to turn to sort through them. It helped, but it didn't organize them completely. I hoping that placing these thoughts into words, maybe it will all come together for me.



Here's what I believe:



I believe that a society can have righteous and unrighteous leaders.

I believe that an unrighteous leader is one who suppresses the needs/wants of the majority for the desires of a few.

I believe that preventing tyranny (or unrighteous leaders) was a strong motivator as the founding fathers drafted the constitution. I think it is interesting the steps they took to protect the people from its own governing body.

I believe that these steps included establishing a repbulic, creating checks and balances, term limitations, and due process.

I believe in the right to bear arms, not because we own a gun, want a gun, or because I even like them. I believe in the right because it allowed our forefathers to overcome the tyranny they felt oppressed by. They wanted to ensure that right to future generations. The freedom of speech and the right to assemble are also part of this protection. They work well for the majority of circumstances, but the right to bear arms is crucial for extreme circumstances. (I hope I never see the need, but I'm glad we have the right, if it is needed).

I believe most laws are cultural institutions created to reflect the values of the society in which those laws are prescribed.

As a voter, I believe I should vote according to my values. I need to share my voice so that the laws will best represent my values. If I am a dissenting voice, so be it.

I believe marriage is between a man and a woman. I want to live in a society that also believes this. I want the laws of the land to reflect this belief. I vote in accordance to this value.



Reflections on Prop 8:

So that brings me to my consideration. It seems to me that the judicial reversal of prop 8 is only partially a question of the morality of same sex marriage.


Here are the questions this law and its being repealed are really asking:
Does the judicial branch (one person) have the right to reverse laws enacted by the states that clearly represents the values of the society that established it (majority vote)?

Are the states limited in what they can allow or disallow in their state constitutions?


Is the California law a violation of the first amendment?

I imagine that this could be a debate that would go all the way to the supreme court.